Friday, February 11, 2011

Love or Lust

Most people easily get deceived by their boyfriends that they are truly in love them. We sometimes find it hard to determine whether it is true love or lust that our boyfriends have for us or that we have for our girlfriends.
So here are some tips on how you can know if it is Love or Lust that your Boyfriend has for you or that you have for her.

It’s Lust if
  • You start your conversations by looking at her cleavage and constantly think about what it would be like to rip off her clothes and go at it.
  • You’re cant stop seeing her ****.
  • You make a face when she calls.
  • You are never interested in just talking to her or being with her. You would happily avoid her for days, and only make an attempt to meet her when you start feeling horny again.
  • You keep fantasising about other women.
  • Even when you are with her you can’t keep your mind (and your eyes) off the other hotties around you.
  • The moment you have had sex with her you start feeling the irrepressible urge to leave. No kissing, no cuddling and sleeping over; just “I gotta go.”
  • She does not seem as attractive as she use to.
Its Love if
  • You have amazing conversations
  • You just love interacting with her. The conversations that two of you have leave you stimulated and happy and the hours pass like minutes. You love listening to her talk and the chemistry between the two of you is amazing.
  • You always find her beautiful
  • You feel amazing chemistry with her
  • Even if she is dressed in a modest salwar that covers her from top to bottom or you catch her without any makeup on she still looks good enough to eat.
  • You want be with her always
  • Even when there is absolutely no chance of having sex with her, you still love the idea of hanging out with her.
  • You are willing to wait for sex.
  • Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait till marriage, you are still interested in her.
  • You are suddenly more romantic.
  • You are more conscious of your appearance.
  • All of a sudden you develop a taste for mushy romantic songs and like to think about her while listening to them. You send her flowers and write romantic letters (emails or sms’s) and set up romantic evenings at home.
  • You are willing to change for her, be a better man.
  • For her you are more than willing give up smoking for good, or put in more hours at work to get that promotion that has eluded you till now.
  • Her presence makes you happy, and you would do anything to make her happier.
Lust is short lived. So unless its love you will soon grow tired of being with your present girlfriend and will give her up the second someone better comes along. Love, on the other hand, is long term. Even though at times they masquerade as each other, you would always be able to tell the difference.

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Saturday, January 29, 2011

Ways to Make a Girl Smile

There are many ways a man can make a girl/woman smile. Most guys find it hard making their girlfriends or even wives smile. A smile can be given and received very easily. It just takes some simple steps and actions.
When you make your girlfriend or wife smile, she will always want to be with you and she will love you more. She`ll see you as a source of joy and happiness and that's what every woman wants. A man who will make her happy; a man who will make her Smile.
So here are some simple ways to make her smile:

Tell her she is BEAUTIFUL.
Telling a girl she is beautiful is the easiest way to make her smile. Some would tell you to stop flattering her. But man, deep inside her she is feeling very happy about it and that would definitely make her smile.

Look her in the eyes an SMILE
When you look her in the eyes passionately and smile, she'll join you and smile. Smiling when looking at her would just lead her into smiling.

Touch her hair gently 
If you do this she'll feel relaxed. Touching her in the hair also shows you care. Girls love this.

Introduce her to your friends as your Girlfriend
This would show her you are proud of her, and in the process lead her to smiling.

Call her just to say "hi"
Call her in the middle of the day and tell her you just wanted to say "hi". She'll smile when she hears you say that.

Tell her she is Intelligent
Telling any girl she is intelligent makes her feel happy and keeps her smiling. 

Call her before you go to bed and when you wake up
Calling her in the morning to tell her good morning and  wishing her a nice day makes her feel you care and makes her smile at the same time. Calling her in the night and telling her you want her voice to be the last voice you'll sleep, makes her feel cherished and adored. Hearing these would surely make her smile.

 Smiles to Remember, Frowns to Forget

Sing a love song to her
She'll find it interesting no matter how bad your voice may sound. She will smile  at you. Just sing it from your heart. She will enjoy it.

Make her laugh
Say funny things that would make her laugh. But be careful not to keep repeating your jokes. Just be original.

Appreciate her gifts
Collect whatever present she gives you. Tell her you love every gift or present she gives to you. She will be happy you like her present.

Take her to a eatery
Yes, this would surely make her smile. Make her enjoy every minute of it.

Finally, Show and Tell Her You LOVE Her
Always show her love her. Treat her with respect. Don`t feel shy, go ahead and tell her how much you love her. She will appreciate. And this would surely make her smile.


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Tuesday, December 14, 2010

What Women Want From Men

You must be wondering what your girlfriend, wife or potential lover wants from you as a partner. You've asked yourself this question severally, but the answer seems not to be coming. You might be a very handsome and attractive guy, but that's not all, women want more than just good looks. So what do women want you'll ask yourself. I will give a few

Women Want To be Cherished
Every woman wants a man who cherishes her. She wants a man that would yearn for her. This gives her a sense of belonging. She wants to be appreciated for what ever she does. She wants a man who can show his appreciation in words and in deeds.

Women want to be Respected
Just as you will want your wife or girlfriend to respect you, that's how she wants to be respected by you. She wants you to talk about her with respect. She is an individual and you must respect that fact. 

Women want a Listening Man
In every relationship, women want that listens to them. She wants you to give her audience. Women do not want men that takes decisions without informing them. 


Women Want Romantic Men
Yes, they want romantic men. Women want men that turn up their romantic desires. No woman wants a man that is dull when it comes to romance. Especially if she is the type that likes it.. She would seek for romance and when you don`t give her, she ends up getting fed up of you.

Women Wants Men That Understands Them
For me what makes relationships work is understanding. If you don`t understand the needs, like, dislikes and moods of your partner, then I don`t think that relationship can work. In a relationship were understanding is missing, there would be a big gap between the partners.   

Women Want Stylish Men 
Women wants men that like looking good. It does not really matter whether if you look good. They just want you to dress well. They want men that  has a unique and good dressing style.

Women Do Not Like Men That Do Not Smell Good
Just like men women do not like men that has bad smells. Women want their man to smell good. Men, usually tend to perspire more than women leaving behind a bad foul that women cannot stand to take.

Women Want Honest Men 
Honesty is one thing that women likes. They want men that are honest. Men that are trustworthy. They like men that tells them the truth regardless of the situation. This would build her trust in you.

 These are just some of the things women want from their man. I would advise you adjust to fit into what she really wants.


What Does She Want from Me, Anyway?: Honest Answers to the Questions Men Ask About Women









Monday, November 22, 2010

How to Attract Good Single Men

Most women give excuses that "the good men have all been taken, remaining the bad ones." This is as a result of them not attracting good men to themselves. It is true that women are naturally attracted to single men who will later break their hearts. But the truth remains that no man walks into your life without your initial acceptance. It doesn't make any good relationship if he is not the good type.  The good single men are not readily attracted to women. So here are some tips on how to attract good men to yourself:


COMMUNICATION: The easiest way to make him notice you, is to say hello or hi to him whenever you see him around. Most women would get the man`s number to talk to him, but some good men do not usually like that kind of first move. Another way is to ask him to help you out where you think he can be of help. With these you can get more time to talk with him. Your communication with him should be decent. Don't give him the impression you are asking him out. Just make him like you with the things you say to him. Say wise things while talking to him. Men likes intelligent women.

GET TO KNOW HIM: Know what kind of a girl he likes, what moves him in a girl and his likes and dislikes. Do some adjustments to fit into what he fancies. Maybe, if he notices those traits in you, he may come asking you out.

BE YOURSELF: This is where women commit blunders. Women seem not to have control over the attraction. Some women behave in awkward manners, thereby giving a wrong impression of themselves to men. It would be very helpful to you if you just be yourself I mean your natural self. This would also help the man in knowing the kind of person you are.

BE INTERESTING: Have an interesting personality. If a am man does not find you interesting, then he would not get attracted to you. Make yourself a stand-out from the crowd. Exude confidence and charm, coupled with intelligence and smiles. This could make you more interesting.

BEAUTY: In every man's heart there is a secret nerve that answers to the vibrations of beauty. Beauty they say is the promise of happiness. So make yourself beautiful. Do your best to look good and attractive.

SMILE: “Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful.” A smile is a language that even a baby understands. A smile they say confuses an approaching frown. When you wear smiles, you look welcoming, you attract good people to yourself. No man wants to live with a woman that does not wear smiles. "A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life’s worthwhile"


Apply these few tips today and you`ll see want difference it would make. Just know that there are good men out there who are looking for good women.

Monday, November 15, 2010

Getting into a Relationship-Things You Should Know About Your Potential Lover

It would make no sense if you go into a relationship with somebody you know nothing about. Some people go into relationships without taking time to really know their potential lovers. This mistake should be avoided.
Here some thing s you should know about your potential lover.
  • Is your Potential Lover Controlling or possessive? Some people are over-protective and feels you are obliged to tell them everything you do. Possessive behavior includes: Texting or calling you a lot to find out where you are. Demanding that you spend a lot of time with them. Saying they love you quickly in a relationship, and then asking you if you feel the same way. Some men grow out of it, some stay like that their whole lives. A lot of guys don't realize they are being possessive, so maybe talk to him and let him know.
  • How caring is your potential lover? Does he or she takes matters relating to you serious? Has that person done anything for you without you begging for it? Please note this.
  • Is your potential lover selfish? A man who talks about himself always, picking faults of the women always is not considerate towards her and cares less about her feelings. Same applies to women. Such a person who wants everything designed to suit him or her, is selfish.
  • How open is your potential lover to you? Is there a healthy communication between  both of you or a wide gap? Does your potential lover share his or her personal life with you, without you asking? Not knowing this may cause problems in your relationship, because if there is no communication between the two of you, you will find it hard getting along with each other.
  • Does he compare you with other women? When a man compares you with other women, the truth there is that he is not sure if he really wants to get into a relationship with you and when you get into the relationship, he might possibly dump you.
  • Consider whether you're both traveling along the same pathway in life. Are you heading in the same direction? Do you share common interests and values?
  • How sincere is he? Does he keeps to his words? Does your potential lover tell the truth regardless of what it might cost him? If he does not keep to his words and lies very often, then he can not be trusted.
  • Is your potential lover positive-minded? Does your potential lover say positive things to you? Does he think you've got something to offer? If he is not positive about you, please don't get into that relationship.
  • Is your potential lover ready for a long-term relationship? If you are planning to get into a long-term relationship and your potential lover wants a short one, then you might end up being heart-broken.
  • How often does he hang-out? If you like hanging out and he does not like hanging out, it might cause problems. And if you don't like hanging out and your potential lover is a party freak  then you are in for a roller-coaster relationship.
  • Is your potential lover a listener? Does he take ideas from you? If he does not take ideas from people or does not listen to other people`s suggestions, then it would be hard for you to change any thing you don`t like about him.
  • Evaluate how he treats you in private and in public. Does he brag about you to others? Does he seem proud to be with you, or does he avoid being seen with you in public places? Does he stick around when you're having a bad day, or does he disappear when you need him the most?
  • You should also know the things your potential lover likes. His favourite color, his best food, his favourite book and movie, the kind of music he likes listening to and other things you may think its irrelevant. Little things matters so just go ahead and ask him.
  • Now is important to know your potential lover`s birthday. A friend of mine asked his girlfriend his birthday and she said she does not know. Though he had not told her before because she had not asked, he did not find it funny. So go ahead and asked him or her.
Knowing these would help you in choosing who becomes your partner. Though a relationship is a learning process but you should know these basics during your dating period before you get into a serious relationship with anybody.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Getting into a Relationship-Ten Things You Should Know About Yourself

We all want to know who others are. We want to know every thing about others. But do you really know yourself? Some claim that nobody has understood them yet, but do they understand themselves? So easily we say we know this or that person, taking it for granted sometimes that they have opened up to you. But what about you? Have you opened up to yourself?
Before you get into a relationship, you must know yourself. Before you talk about knowing who you want to get into a relationship with, it is beneficial you know somethings about yourself. When you do this, then you would be able to define yourself and in-turn know the kind of persons you want.
So what are the important things you should know about yourself?
  1. You should know if you are the caring type. Most partners would want you to be very caring to them and if you are not caring, it could cause your relationship to be a short one.
  2. You should know if you are selfish and try to change if you are. Most partners do not know how to share. Some persons can live with them, while some others can not live with people like this. So knowing this about yourself would help in deciding on who you want to get involved with.
  3. Are you open-minded? You should know if you are open. If you share things your thoughts with friends. Your potential partner might be the type that would want to know everything.
  4. Are you responsible? If you are the the type that hangs out in bars, parties frequently, smokes and stays out late, some persons might not want get involved with you. So you should know if you would have to change.
  5. You should know what makes you get angry. Some people have attitudes that are annoying to some, while to others these same attitudes are enjoyable. So you should know this about yourself so you don`t get into the wrong hands.
  6. Money Money Money. Are you a cash loving person? As you may know, not everybody wants to spend their money. Some just want to save it forever.
  7. What do you really want from the relationship? You`ll have to know this. You must determine if you want to go into a long-term relationship or a short one. You should also know if you are getting into a relationship because of what you have to gain. Knowing what you want would also help you in decision making.
  8. Are you romantic? Some people can not cope with partners that are not romantic while some can`t. Some are ready to teach their partners to be romantic while some just want a ready-made romantic partner.
  9. What do you truly like? Some of  us think we like a thing while in the actual sense, we do not like that thing. We like this thing when we are with this group of people and when we are with another group, we hate it. So I recommend Self-exploration.
  10. Are you ready to go into a relationship? Don`t go into a relationship when you are not ready. The out-come might be devastating.
These ten are not the only things you have know about yourself but you have to know these ones. This would be very helpful in choosing a love partners.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

LEARNING TO LAUGH

A research was conducted in all countries of the world a renowned Non-governmental organization, to determine the happiness level or otherwise of the people of all the nations of the world. At the time the result was released, Nigeria was adjudged the happiest nation in the world. The result suggested that our smiling/happier disposition might be responsible for the long life expectancy ratio in Nigeria.

It is true that our happy spirit dictates what goes on around us. People who don`t laugh are usually weighed down by thoughts, worries and cares. They stress their facial muscles and increase tensions, thus they look horrible, ugly and older than their real ages. They think that life is a "serious business" and as such, they hardly find any reason to smile, let alone laugh. They forget that laughter is therapeutic. Even the Bible declare that "A merry heart does good like medicine: but a broken spirit(heart) dries the bone"-Proverbs 17:22.
Do not allow any life challenges, circumstances to steal away your happiness. When tough times come, that`s the time to laugh. If you've been facing trying times, I`ll like to recommend what I will call "laughing sessions" Even if you are not facing ant challenges, you can as well add this to your daily activities and see what difference this would do to your life.
As a single you need to learn how to laugh. This would attract people to you. It would also make you to look friendly and social. Learning to laugh helps you in many ways:
·         It makes you look friendly
·         It helps your facial looks making you look younger
·         It attracts people to you
·         It helps you forget your sorrows and a whole lot more
Why not try learning how to laugh today. This could be helpful:
Look for a place where you can be alone, pull a chair, sit down and call a friend and share your embarrassing moments with him or her. This would help you cultivate a laughing habit. You can also try watching amusing films, listen to funny radio presenters. Be playful with yourself and others around you. You can also call a friend to tickle you.
Practice laughing for 5-10mins daily. Laugh without a reason you. You can start with a smile, it puts you closer to laughing. Do this for 3 weeks and you`ll see the difference it would make in your life.

Have fun laughing.... Hahahahaha... *laughing*